When I had the flu really bad my kids did too and I still had to take care of everybody. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. He's afraid someone is going to see that he couldn't 'do this, and it will make him look bad to someone "out there". My cough doesnt produce anything other than an exsmokers clean up. People are either takers or givers. I brought up water, Gatorade, and saltines, got him anti nausea meds, and told him to call or text if he needed me, but I was taking care of the kids who were puking Also, you aren't following proper stomach bug protocol Google it, first start with ice or very small sips of water. It dramatically affected my relationship for the worse. And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. But it was terrible to watch my child suffer like that. If the tables were turned, I know he'd be acting like he was at death's door if he simply had the sniffles. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. Not my H. He'd blow a gasket and likely also yell at me for ruining his life. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. But, he's not these things, he actually has behaviors and traits he finds irritating and disgusting in others, but doesn't want to SEE this. Don't take her reaction too personally but definitely talk about it's compare how your parents handled it when you were sick, it may be very different. 2 yrs ago I was in a serious car accident. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sun, 04/16/2017 - 10:08. Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. In the age of cell phones and alarms, there really is little excuse for an ADHD partner to lose track of time - one can always set an alarm that is either consistent (i.e. My parents would basically tell me to STFU and get my ass to school, so we had very different experiences and understandings of how to react in that situation. Have been married for 4years now. The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. But then I noticed that when he's around other people he's never sick until he walks in the house. Lol. You must have JavaScript enabled to use this form. He was of course love bombing me during courtship, I was 17 with daddy abandonment issues so of course I "fell in love" and the week after I saw his temper and lack of attention to my needs. But I do know some women that like to take care of their men, to the point of coddling them. No one has ever taken a day off when I was sick . Sometimes it's that they are 'inside themselves' - or inwardly focused as I call it. You might be thinking, wow, why be with someone like that? Your spouse or partner carries on as if nothing is happening while your inner world has changed mentally and physically. Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. That's my two bits and I'm sticking too it. Now not now and love. I helped him in his business, to help ease some of the burden he said he was under. If she's sick, and the kids need something, she's on her own. Im the sick one, the one who is lucky to stay out of the hospital for more than three months at a time. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. explicit permission. Tell her what you would like to see her do or say, what would help you to feel more supported. And vice versa. My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. Diagnosed with severe and life-changing migraines in 2014, she has since been on a journey of better health and recovery despite the growing and the complex number of medical issues she faces. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. But I truly think my husband is being a pussy sometimes. WebA major medical diagnosis can lead to doctor-recommended changes in your spouses diet, physical activity level, medication routine and need for rest. This becomes a real problem for me in one area especially. It wasnt until recently that I found my voice. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. WebI love my wife. Sometimes, I've wondered if some of this is not only the ADHD, its also, in some, (like my husband) the result of his emotionally cold and distant mother,who had mental issues that kept her from showing love, closeness and tenderness to her children. But, he can't get past the victim hood yet.). And vice versa if she's the one down ill. Can't really prepare good food when you're nauseous and fked up all over. By then its too late. But don't be the version of youthat is currentlyin his face. If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. Nothing. She says take medicine or go to doctor. Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. Reach out in an inviting way. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. Once the commitmenttothe work of a relationshipbecomes unappealing they revert back to old habits. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. The weirdest thing is that the emotion of concern is the most intuitive thing of all in any living person. I know this may sound "corny", lol, but I don't think I'm too off base with this. That lasted about 6 months for us and about 2 years for me to get over. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. He is so sick and depressed. If your betta lives in an unfiltered setup youll need to completely change his water and clean his tank weekly. Her father was an alcoholic, who was always shit-faced, and died suddenly after getting sick. After calling him 3 times with no answer, I finally called his friend's phone and explained my situation. I need to see if Iam wrong about this. Alright. I wanted to hope that with me gone, and only him in the house, he would get to live the way he "wanted". We already talked and we good now. 3. Anyway. ExpectingH to become someone he cannot/will not be is futile. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. I would like to see him live with this and all the pain and cognitive dysfunction it causes. Nothing sexual ever happened but after 2 years of him love bombing me, calling me hot, beautiful, his soul mate, his twin, etc, he would discard me when I got too needy and hoover me back in when he needed an emotional pick me up. Consequences. Haven't had so much as a hug and a kiss in sympathy. Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. My husband's reaction? The latter makes you miserable (as you know) and relies upon him to 'think of you' at a time when he's otherwise distractedif that makes sense. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. 2022 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. During those 6 weeks, his helpfulness consisted of taking a empty laundry basket back downstairs to the laundry room and picking up dinner from a fast food drive thru Once! Once shes mad, the first step to resolving it is by me apologizing. Your husband is a narcissist, sorry to say. I am better than begging and I am tired of it. I agree 100%. Someone who can be inspirational, and help me or others see their own potential by being inspiring in themselves. Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. He just gets on his computer. It wont solvefor the dishonesty (and just found a new credit card). in Child and Adolescent Development and then an M.A. How a Narcissist Treats a Chronically Ill Spouse. Don't get me wrong. I WISH I was kidding. When he arrived, he did not hug me, ask how I was, or show ANY CARE. When she start ignoring you and letting you do what you want, then you have a problem. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:18. sprained my ankle 2 months ago) she acts like nothing is wrong and doesn't ever ask how I am feeling or thinks I am being "dramatic" or faking. With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. Germaphobe type thing? I'll talk to my wife when she gets home. I will keep that in mind. Emotionless. I was being somewhat sarcastic in my response. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy, but, if it is, your life partner should be #1, then the kids. Really? I always wished I had the guts to leave him but the codependencykept me there. Clearly you know it's a problem and you're still in that relationship and most likely going to have kids with him yourself and then act like oh no poor me I still got married and had kids with the guy that's treated me like crap since day one. Submitted by DependentOrigination on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 10:32. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. I guess it could be that old saying of, 'Whatever you fear you create". Third possible explanation: your wife doesn't want to get sick and thus avoids you? Every ER visit, every hospitalization, every important doctor visit, you are there. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. I come first now. So, again, it's about him. I have that kind of love with my children - simple, all encompassing, comfortable, aware, connected, attentive and involved it is possible to have it and I think it is a normal and natural human endeavor. No expression. Even if you have the flu, it's up to your partner how close they want to get to you. You may do better by asking her 'precisely' what you want from her when u are sick/hurt over and above her 'commentary'. WebBy sick, I mean a minor cold. When someone is sick or injured.I'm first respondentjust so you know? Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. Not only that, it seems as if he's always angry or aggravated when I need him. Of course. If you feel leaving him will make you happy then do it. Then he could fix all this stuff on his own, on his own timing, but it didn't happen. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. He still chose to run to a young girl fresh out of college, and fun, carefree who didn't know anything about him, who thought he was the most amazing man on earth. So cultural. Like so many of the other posts, writing this post and sharing my feelings is very therapeutic. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? In preparation, he never did set up a way to communicate with her (In the entire last year), did not reach out to her before or after the surgery. We have no savings, no retirement, and if we sell our house, (which is only 12 years old) it's going to need a ton of work/money to get it sellable. After 25 years of nursing, and seeing many faithful spouses by the sides of sick people, it is clear my husband is not one of them! Make him whatever type of soup he wants, bring him medicine, rub his head etc. Run!!! I don't think this is necessarily an ADHD thing. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. I do this sometimes. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! not good. He is generous to others but asks me when I can pay him back. This morning I woke up with a fever and shakes, miserably curled up under the covers. 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. (and the smell, yuck) Even his clothes smell like old grease. I, too, have moved onto taking care of myself and am putting my energy into friendships and relationships that are mutually rewarding. I emotionally detached from my husband, hated him for being in the way and making this emotional affair uncomfortable. I take and I take, and then I take some more. If you are in the full ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? OMG. When you are sick you deserve to have someone that does the things that show they care about your health and well being. (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. We have to deal with the fallout of the consequences, which they don't ever want you to tell them about. He hates the snow. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. Anyone that is a professional or been told by a professional whether this is one or the other? Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. It seems to b BTW, when ourkids are sick he is mean and heartless. I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I have a high pain threshold and never take any days off sick. Some people are very loving and caring, others are pretty avoidant. I told her that as long as I took it slow, I would be OK. My husband didn't offer to help, he just stood there, and I could hear the wheels turning in his head. My husband would blame me for ruining his life. Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. So I've (40m) been married ten years now and I love my wife (40f), but she has the most annoying behavior pattern whenever I am sick. WHAT? He is scared about his health lately. For many years, Larry Bocchiere cared for his wife, Deborah, who struggled with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease. "We can't afford it", but we can't afford to NOT call in someone. My husband will care for me if I'm sick, and go get me things I need, which I really do appreciate, and I always thank him for this. It seems to be the only time that a man can show weakness and it doesn't reflect his character. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. Have enough respect without ego to treat yourself with a non-toxic man or woman. a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read, Tell me about it..My husband lacks sympathy for me and the kids, His entertainment comes before anything else, They take as much as they can for as long as we allow it, Yes Dear Dede sadly we do know of that you speak:), https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd. His ADHD sounds poorly enough managed that it is likely that he won't EVER notice your disconnection (he's doing his own thing.) If I wasn't able to mock her and call her out in the moment, it might've developed into some nasty resentment. Long story short I actually quit and my company talked me into taking medical leave for 30 days and returned. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. If the ADHD'er is unwilling to get help then really it's not fair for the other person to be the only one to want to actively work at it. I will not call for a man when I am sick. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. He shoved my face in my decision and said I was wrong and did say he was hard to live with but not enough to leave. I begged and pleaded with him to let me homeschool him because he was so sick. Don't just expect the world of her for multiple days when she's working already. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. Fortunately, theres a Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. I have loved you for a long time, and we have been through so much together, but what Ive recently learned is this: You could care less about my illness. So if you want to connect, you will likely be the one to have to bring it up. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. Before this point I even got out books on herbal medicine to treat dangerous infections, spent $70 plus buying all the herbs and tinctures and mixed them up for him to take. It sucks but thats what it is. I mis calculated the drop, my crutches went out from under me, and I fell, landing flat on my back on thecement patio, hard. "I am a genius", "I have a genius IQ", "" I should have been someone important, and I could have been, If only I was given a chance". My husband believes he's Mr. Fix-It, and can fix anything. He got mad at me because I went to grab the phone charger in the wall and didn't see it was connected to his phone (I needed to have a phone with me if I had to drive myself to the hospital in the middle of the night), he snapped at me that I am always in pain and should rent a hotel room in the hospital, etc, etc, and threw a different charger at me. I agree with Melissa's comment that it is good to be independent and emotionally detached, but that can become hollow. ).the instant I said I didn't feel wellshe put her hand on my forehead.went..OMGgot a thermometer and took my temperature.as one might think one should do in a situation like that? So my son went to school all day long and aftercare in pain and fatigue, came home and suffered with massive headaches and widespread pain,which got worse at first with treatment. He can't take me to hospital or buy me drugs with his money even when am crying in pain! It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. Thats it. I am the best thing he has ever had. Yes, he also doesn't notice if I've become disconntected - I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I was too kind, wanting to help TOO much, and didn't set boundaries. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. He literally goes deaf ears when I tell him Im sick. Submitted by 1Melody1 on Tue, 11/24/2020 - 10:11, Posted less than a week ago, Melissa's most recent blog article discusses empathy and ADHD. So I was always trying to coddle him, console him, all the while, since I was 17, begging him to get therapy for us or himself and refused, claiming that his bipolar mother was ruined by therapists. Commitment, sacrifice, partnering are too boring and difficult..not a part of love to H. Love is only themoment's pleasure to him. So I had been barfing all day long.almost going to the hostpital and was sicker than I had ever been before or after except with Appendicitis as an adult. I told him I am sick but he tells me to get rest and took off to entertain himself. Its good to have a healthy balance. Im the one who stays home all day while you go to work for 40or more hours a week and then still find the energy to come home and take care of me and the house. What symptoms first occurred in And I can tell you one thing without a doubt or question in my mind? We don't have kids yet. My SO is not yet undergoing any kind of treatment. Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. Barf and poop, rehydrate, and take care of yourself. Well, yes, I have an Autoimmune condition that causes it. This has been a transformation in more ways than one. Thats It gets to you after a while I feel lonely most of the day I get really depressed he wants me to clean up all the time when he goes (figues) but I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety it's hard for me to get up to doing simple tasks it's even harder when I have to do it on my own. Don't misunderstand me - I get it. Stop selling your soul for sex, money or a sense of security. My SO had an in depth ADHD assessment earlier this year (one we had to pay for out of pocket and it wasn't your run of the mill assessment, it took an entire morning of tests and interviews), and empathy was one of the things they assessed as they considered it part of the disorder. Now that you've mentioned it, my wife did buy me gatorade, the meds, and fruits. (regardless of what his mother did to him when he was small) Somewhere insidehimself, he knew he was holding back, and still did it, to his own detriment and the detriment of our marriage and love. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. Just gotta get used to it! It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same You know all the important things. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. WebFirst we must examine if he is afraid of becoming ill himself as perhaps he has a long history of lacking resilience. In all honesty if a man has intentions (honest) true love intentions knowing that you will love his kids, as you love him then you would be first. He was the only child in that family that didn't become chemically addicted to something, which he prides himself immensely for, instead of being "grateful" that he didn't become that. What does it take to stop running into these types of people? And, when I'm not 100%, then he's not being cared for. And what Ive learned is, thats exactly why Im with you. Because in his mind, I'm supposed to be taking care of him.not the other way around. I hope he gets the help he needs! Theyve been together for 15 I am very organized so I planned for thenext 20 days. We want to hear your story. They are more important than you are. OMG. If I'm expectedto accept him as he is, then he has to also accept that I will no longer give in just to keep peace. it's not the same as OCD. You should probably be checked out by a doctor. (Dirt, dust, cob webs, grease, filth, trash, broken stuff, computer junk, all over) Then there is the paperwork all over the place and our finances to get through. He made me pay that year for leaving. If you talk about how he's not connecting with you and that's disappointing to you, the issue is HIM. Lets look at the options: 1. I said no. Later Ilet him know I am very sick and need some help. Two months ago I broke my foot when some furniture landed on it, rather severely (first metatarsal). Maybe I was expecting something like that. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Do I wish that were not the case? But know that people can take a while to be retrained to react differently. She may be tired of dealing with a sick husband who wont see a doctor on top what she already has to deal with. You should absolutely not expect to be treated as a child by your wife, and don't put your wife in the roll of your mother. This is not the life you want. Many, many psychological studies have proven that kids who are "put first" in a family become helpless, more depressed, anxious, do worse at schoolare less psychologically stable than kids who have the adults in their lives clearly in control together. I dont expect to be doted on and coddled when Im sick, but some level of A therapist can help you evaluate the factors that have led you to this step and then offer advice about how to best proceed. However, I work andtake care of the house and the kids. But, he can't get past the victim hood yet. No words. Thanks, man. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. I'm glad that's 'not in your nature'except that it is. I'm feeling better now! First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Some people wait until the water is visibly murky before performing maintenance on the tank. Being romantic just to get sex will be seen as manipulative. My experience with ADD people is they are takers. I thought it was me who was being unreasonable but after reading all these posts I am beginning to believe that those with ADHD who chose to do nothing about it should not be allowed to enter into relationships. I actually yelled at him, told him how selfish he is. He wrote me a letter saying how he fell in love in college, and she left him, and he didn't want to feel "that hurt" again, so he basically shut "that part" of himself down, so that he wouldn't FEEL that. If there IS, it's usually in a complaint or verbal assault on someone or something, that irritated him, again, "at the moment". The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin They want something done and over with, right then. Imagine that. 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